Prinsip : Bagaimana Menghentikan Kekhawatiran dan Memulai Hidup
Dalam hidup, seringkali kita terlibat dalam masalah yang sesungguhnya diciptakan oleh pikiran kita sendiri. Contoh masalah yang paling umum terjadi adalah timbulnya perasaan khawatir setelah melakukan sesuatu hal yang penting. Jika hal itu terjadi berlebihan, maka bukan tidak mungkin akan berdampak pada kesehatan.
Prinsip-prinsip Pokok untuk Menanggulangi Kekhawatiran
1. Hiduplah dalam tekanan. Ini berarti, kamu akan terbiasa bekerja dalam keadaaan tertekan. Namun hindari membuat dirimu tertekan.
2. Jika mengahadapi masalah:
a. Tanya pada diri sendiri: "Apa hal terburuk yang dapat mungkin terjadi?"
b. Persiapkan untuk menerima yang terburuk
c. Coba untuk memperbaiki hal yang terburuk itu
3. Ingatkan dirimu pada harga tertinggi yang harus kamu bayar untuk kekhawatiran yang berhubungan denngan kesehatanmu. Intinya, segala kekhawatiranmu jangan sampai membuat kesehatan menurun. Ingat, ada penyakit yang dinamakan psikosomatik (psychosomatic).
4. (Tambahan) Berdoalah pada Sang Khalik. Hanya dengan mengingat-Nya-lah, hati menjadi tenang.
Teknik-teknik Dasar dalam Menganalisa Kekhawatiran
1. Dapatkan semua faktanya
2. Pertimbangkan semua faktanya lalu simpulkan
3. Saat kesimpulan telah tercapai, berbuatlah!
4. Tulis dan jawab pertanyaan-pertanyaan di bawah ini:
a. Apa masalahnya ?
b. Apa penyebab masalahnya ?
c. Apa saja solusi yang mungkin ?
d. Solusi apa yang mungkin menjadi yang terbaik ?
Dengan begitu, kamu akan dapat meminimalisir timbulnya kekhawatiran :)
Sumber: Dale Carnegie-Golden Book dan beberapa tambahan dari buku Dale Carnegie lainnya
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March 30, 2010
January 03, 2010
Function / Malfunction ?
Actually i don't know what i wanna write here, but i'm so apreciating when my friend visits my blog; and hell yeah, reads my whole stories.
For me, this blog, AC's, is my online diary. I do know the consequensies : read by many people and judged by many people. I just wanna to share my mind, my blabber words, my glimpse minds, and everything i had just happened to me, that can't be handled by myself. So i pour it all here. You could judge me whatever you want. This is another side of me, instead of you see me smile all day as if i didn't have any problem.
My first friend in SMAN2 had ever said, "i know you are a crazieeeh (okay, she didnt say like this, i'm just lebeeeeh -lebay-). But i do know you also have many problems in your life. You just want to forget it all to make it easier. You are a great one whom can hiding your problems behind your smiles and lol-ing." And i just say, "Oh." I even don't know why i try to make some laugh. I only feel better if i could widening my lips until my teeth seen. Ehehehe
Nah ? Not obvious, isn't it ? That's i am. Hah.
For me, this blog, AC's, is my online diary. I do know the consequensies : read by many people and judged by many people. I just wanna to share my mind, my blabber words, my glimpse minds, and everything i had just happened to me, that can't be handled by myself. So i pour it all here. You could judge me whatever you want. This is another side of me, instead of you see me smile all day as if i didn't have any problem.
My first friend in SMAN2 had ever said, "i know you are a crazieeeh (okay, she didnt say like this, i'm just lebeeeeh -lebay-). But i do know you also have many problems in your life. You just want to forget it all to make it easier. You are a great one whom can hiding your problems behind your smiles and lol-ing." And i just say, "Oh." I even don't know why i try to make some laugh. I only feel better if i could widening my lips until my teeth seen. Ehehehe
Nah ? Not obvious, isn't it ? That's i am. Hah.
Personality Test
I've just done my test. Eventhough the test is very simple, but my result is close to myself.
And here the result for me :
General Characteristics (gray table)
Tendency to stabilization + dependence on feelings + concentrationYou would like to live in a peaceful and orderly environment, in which due to a strong emotional connection with your partner and environment, you would be able to feel confident in a situation, quite satisfying for you.
Your Desired Objective
Longs for tenderness and for a sensitivity of feeling into which he can blend. Responsive to anything esthetic and tasteful.
Existing Situation
Active, outgoing, and restless. Feels frustrated by the slowness with which events develop along the desired lines. This leads to irritability, changeability, and lack of persistence when pursuing a given objective.
Your Restrained Characteristics
You have to make temporary concessions in order not to be completely isolated and deprived of love and pleasant emotions. Circumstances are such that you have to compromise, if you don’t want to lose your attachment and emotional involvement into the relationship.
Your Stress Sources
Has an unsatisfied need to ally himself with others whose standards are as high as his own, and to stand out from the rank and file. This subjects him to considerable stress, but he sticks to his attitudes despite lack of appreciation. Finds the situation uncomfortable and would like to break away from it, but refuses to compromise with his opinions. Unable to resolve the situation because he continually postpones making the necessary decision as he doubts his ability to withstand the opposition which would result. Needs the esteem of others, compliance with his wishes, and respect for his opinions before he can feel at ease and secure.
Your Actual Problem
Wants to be valued and respected, and seeks this from a close and peaceful association of mutual esteem.
try this, and get you accurate personality test
Accurate personality test
And here the result for me :
General Characteristics (gray table)
Tendency to stabilization + dependence on feelings + concentrationYou would like to live in a peaceful and orderly environment, in which due to a strong emotional connection with your partner and environment, you would be able to feel confident in a situation, quite satisfying for you.
Your Desired Objective
Longs for tenderness and for a sensitivity of feeling into which he can blend. Responsive to anything esthetic and tasteful.
Existing Situation
Active, outgoing, and restless. Feels frustrated by the slowness with which events develop along the desired lines. This leads to irritability, changeability, and lack of persistence when pursuing a given objective.
Your Restrained Characteristics
You have to make temporary concessions in order not to be completely isolated and deprived of love and pleasant emotions. Circumstances are such that you have to compromise, if you don’t want to lose your attachment and emotional involvement into the relationship.
Your Stress Sources
Has an unsatisfied need to ally himself with others whose standards are as high as his own, and to stand out from the rank and file. This subjects him to considerable stress, but he sticks to his attitudes despite lack of appreciation. Finds the situation uncomfortable and would like to break away from it, but refuses to compromise with his opinions. Unable to resolve the situation because he continually postpones making the necessary decision as he doubts his ability to withstand the opposition which would result. Needs the esteem of others, compliance with his wishes, and respect for his opinions before he can feel at ease and secure.
Your Actual Problem
Wants to be valued and respected, and seeks this from a close and peaceful association of mutual esteem.
try this, and get you accurate personality test
Accurate personality test
January 02, 2010
I'll meet you there
Thanks to Owl City whom create this outstanding yet powerful song and strengthen me so much :)
If we could sit together a moment
And talk forever just to pass the time
I would smile as the shivers and chills run down my spine
With your eyes are locked on mine
Oh we will fill the metro skies with country air
And when you close your tired eyes I'll meet you there
I'll meet you there
Deep inside of you there’s a ruby glow
And it gets brighter then you and I will ever know
There’s a rushing sound that surrounds us when we walk alone
And it’s everything we've never known
Wander down the street
And I would be the pavement beneath your feet
If we could just be immobile for some time
And finally figure out the way we feel
About the missing puzzle pieces and cloudy question marks
It still looks a bit surreal
Oh I tend to disappear here and there
So concentrate and you’ll feel me everywhere
And well feel the metro skies with country air
If you’re lost when you close your eyes I’ll meet you there
You could be anywhere
I’ll meet you there
You could be anywhere
Open your eyes and see everything you can be
I'll meet you there
| 10 - Owl City - I'... |
If we could sit together a moment
And talk forever just to pass the time
I would smile as the shivers and chills run down my spine
With your eyes are locked on mine
Oh we will fill the metro skies with country air
And when you close your tired eyes I'll meet you there
I'll meet you there
Deep inside of you there’s a ruby glow
And it gets brighter then you and I will ever know
There’s a rushing sound that surrounds us when we walk alone
And it’s everything we've never known
Wander down the street
And I would be the pavement beneath your feet
If we could just be immobile for some time
And finally figure out the way we feel
About the missing puzzle pieces and cloudy question marks
It still looks a bit surreal
Oh I tend to disappear here and there
So concentrate and you’ll feel me everywhere
And well feel the metro skies with country air
If you’re lost when you close your eyes I’ll meet you there
You could be anywhere
I’ll meet you there
You could be anywhere
Open your eyes and see everything you can be
I'll meet you there
October 21, 2009
simply rules to happier and lovable
Lima peraturan sederhana untuk hidup bahagia
1. Bebaskan dirimu dari kebencian
2. Bebaskan pikiranmu dari kesusahan.
3. Hiduplah secara sederhana.
4. Berilah lebih.
5. Kurangilah harapan.
Tiada seorangpun yang bisa kembali dan mulai baru dari awal. Setiap orang dapat mulai saat ini dan melakukan akhir yang baru. Tuhan tidak menjanjikan hari-hari tanpa sakit, tertawa tanpa kesedihan, matahari tanpa hujan, tetapi Dia menjanjikan kekuatan untuk hari itu, kebahagiaan untuk air mata, dan terang dalam perjalanan. Kekecewaan bagai "polisi tidur", ini akan memperlambatmu sedikit tetapi kau selanjutnya akan menikmati jalan rata. Jangan tinggal terlalu lama saat ada "polisi tidur". Berjalanlah terus. Ketika kau kecewa karena tidak memperoleh apa yang kaukehendaki, terimalah dan bergembiralah, karena Tuhan sedang memikirkan sesuatu yang lebih baik untuk dirimu.
Saat terjadi sesuatu padamu, baik atau buruk, pertimbangkanlah artinya. Ada suatu maksud untuk setiap kejadian dalam kehidupan, mengajarmu bagaimana lebih seringkali tertawa atau tidak terlalu keras menangis.
Kau tidak dapat memaksa seseorang mencintaimu, apa yang dapat kau perbuat hanyalah membiarkan dirimu untuk dicintai, selebihnya ada pada orang itu untuk menilai dirimu.
Ukuran cinta adalah saat kau mencintai tanpa batas. Dalam kehidupan jarang akan kau temui seseorang yang kau cintai dan orang itu mencintaimu juga. Jadi sekali kau memperoleh cinta jangan lepaskan, ada kemungkinan cinta itu tidak datang kembali.
Kita terlalu membuang-buang waktu untuk mencari-cari orang yang sesuai untuk dicintai atau melihat kesalahan-kesalahan pada orang yang telah kita cintai, dari pada malah seharusnya kita menyempurnakan cinta yang kita berikan.
Jika kau sungguh-sungguh senang pada seseorang, janganlah kau mencari-cari kekurangannya, kau jangan mencari-cari alasan, kau jangan mencari-cari kesalahannya. Malahan, kau atasi kesalahan-kesalahan itu, kau terima kekurangan-kekurangan itu dan jangan kau hiraukan alasan-alasan itu.
1. Bebaskan dirimu dari kebencian
2. Bebaskan pikiranmu dari kesusahan.
3. Hiduplah secara sederhana.
4. Berilah lebih.
5. Kurangilah harapan.
Tiada seorangpun yang bisa kembali dan mulai baru dari awal. Setiap orang dapat mulai saat ini dan melakukan akhir yang baru. Tuhan tidak menjanjikan hari-hari tanpa sakit, tertawa tanpa kesedihan, matahari tanpa hujan, tetapi Dia menjanjikan kekuatan untuk hari itu, kebahagiaan untuk air mata, dan terang dalam perjalanan. Kekecewaan bagai "polisi tidur", ini akan memperlambatmu sedikit tetapi kau selanjutnya akan menikmati jalan rata. Jangan tinggal terlalu lama saat ada "polisi tidur". Berjalanlah terus. Ketika kau kecewa karena tidak memperoleh apa yang kaukehendaki, terimalah dan bergembiralah, karena Tuhan sedang memikirkan sesuatu yang lebih baik untuk dirimu.
Saat terjadi sesuatu padamu, baik atau buruk, pertimbangkanlah artinya. Ada suatu maksud untuk setiap kejadian dalam kehidupan, mengajarmu bagaimana lebih seringkali tertawa atau tidak terlalu keras menangis.
Kau tidak dapat memaksa seseorang mencintaimu, apa yang dapat kau perbuat hanyalah membiarkan dirimu untuk dicintai, selebihnya ada pada orang itu untuk menilai dirimu.
Ukuran cinta adalah saat kau mencintai tanpa batas. Dalam kehidupan jarang akan kau temui seseorang yang kau cintai dan orang itu mencintaimu juga. Jadi sekali kau memperoleh cinta jangan lepaskan, ada kemungkinan cinta itu tidak datang kembali.
Kita terlalu membuang-buang waktu untuk mencari-cari orang yang sesuai untuk dicintai atau melihat kesalahan-kesalahan pada orang yang telah kita cintai, dari pada malah seharusnya kita menyempurnakan cinta yang kita berikan.
Jika kau sungguh-sungguh senang pada seseorang, janganlah kau mencari-cari kekurangannya, kau jangan mencari-cari alasan, kau jangan mencari-cari kesalahannya. Malahan, kau atasi kesalahan-kesalahan itu, kau terima kekurangan-kekurangan itu dan jangan kau hiraukan alasan-alasan itu.
source : sebuah artikel, yang dicopy ke notes teman
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